Damn, guys, what was it that you lacked in childhood, that you en masse dress in lingerie, shave your legs, chest and arms, although in ordinary life - exemplary fathers of families and brutal straight people nowhere else ?! 
A few years ago there was no such thing ... although, I'm lying, it was 20 years ago, and 100, and 200, but if earlier they were feminine and mannered young men, now ...
Crossdressers. No, no, not transvestites and not transsexuals, beautiful, courageous, pumped-up guys dress up as women and they have it - it stands on themselves, and even so that they are ready to fuck themselves with their own dick. By the way, some people do it well, let alone a blow job to himself - just with a bang!
Believe it or not, I looked on the net and found this ... Yes, these guys have a rather complicated gradation:
- transsexual crossdressers(or transvestites of a double role) - men who occasionally wear women's clothes, but sexually it does not excite them (?) and they do not want to do the operation and will not do it.
- fetish crossdressers- guys who wear women's clothes, it turns them on, they have sex with both those and those. Fetish transvestism is accompanied by autogynephilia. Autogynephil is a person who is sexually aroused by fantasies about himself as a woman and his feminine body (female version of narcissism).
Brothers (or their "sisters") "crossdressers" (CD, CD) - these simply dress up in women, love wigs, but in sex they still prefer to sleep more with women than with guys. In ordinary life, they are brutal straight people with a slight hint of unisex.
There are also "traps" - more often heterosexuals (well, relatively), unisex in appearance, that is, feminine boys and boy girls, often do not suffer from perversions with clothes.
And the last category "Sissy" (Sissy Boy, Sissy Maid, Sissy Slut, Sissy Slave, Sissy Doll) - guys or men who like to dress up as a woman with an absolute desire to obey or be humiliated by a woman. And what the Mistress will make them do there - here they are happy to try, they don't particularly practice same-sex sex.
Are you tired? Confused? I also...
We are not talking about drag queens - this is pure business ... But who knows.
By the way, "transsexuality" is included in the International Classification of Diseases, in theory - such a "girl" is entitled to a day off on "critical" days.
Just yesterday ... I’m sitting on the site, I don’t bother anyone, a straight man writes (in search of it, I’m looking for a modest girl to create a family), they say, I want to try with a guy. I didn't break down for a long time, all the more so - in the photo there is a handsome athlete, eight cubes of the press and all the cases, tall, athletic ... I will not hide, drool flowed right across the screen, for clarification I tell him that I am not athletic, ordinary. He told me: "Excellent! Tell me the address and I'll come."
Arrives, everything is as in the photo - sweetie ... asked for a shower, this is only welcome, left. It takes about 15 minutes, appears ... Damn, in black fishnet stockings, red panties, black silk bra. I remember exactly - we did not discuss this, he apparently read the whole storm of emotions on my face, explains that he cannot and will not be otherwise. And, indeed, he has a frenzied erection that can only be envied. I will not hide, as they say, I am rather cynical and reasonable to pay attention to such trifles. The sex was fantastic, there was everything and even more, he moaned and wriggled, in the process I managed to take off some of his clothes, but he did not allow the stockings to be touched ... Maybe there is some kind of exotic in this. But it's not mine, it's not mine, I don't mind, let the guys do what they want. But not in my bed ...
After sex we got into conversation. Ilya was married twice (there is something to marry, believe me), two daughters from both wives. But occasionally he definitely needs to be under a man, preferably with stubble and harder, to be beaten. After he finishes - the male partner is disgusting and uninteresting to him (he just didn’t finish with me), lingerie excites, but it’s not like a fetish. Everywhere he was neatly and beautifully shaved, no, the wives were not aware of his preferences ... We repeated our games and he disappeared from my life forever - in the morning his page was deleted. Good luck my dear ... or dear!
I have no prejudice ... therefore, claims of ridicule and insult from transgender people will not be accepted.
When I accepted my determination and desire to act, my man became decisive and began to act!
We live in an amazing World in which everything is possible. It contains those who have already come to harmony and happiness, and live, enjoying every day of life, and those who still suffer and choose to fight every day for their happiness, with themselves, their world, remake themselves and change loved ones. And change is unsuccessful.
And it seems that everyone lives on the same planet, but they are separated by whole Universes - they have completely different worlds:
- Those who have already moved to the level of acceptance and harmony do not need to remake someone. They see power and light in every person. Who is there to heal, if you are already whole, you just forgot about it.
- Those who are still at the level of struggle and games of the mind wonder how one can be so calm and live in joy and harmony.
Hundreds of thousands of people around the world are being trained to heal themselves. But, understand, admitting that you are sick or incomplete you become so. Because everything we focus on tends to happen.
Read also: and see the positive in everything? It's all about where your focus of thoughts is directed, and then you see.
Why do many of us work on ourselves:
- to be loved or recognized;
- so that the husband earns more, or becomes more successful;
- etc.
It is important not to remake yourself for someone, it is from this that dissatisfaction and claims to loved ones grow, but to work on yourself for yourself. To live in acceptance and harmony and, above all, yourself and your reactions and states.
- Admit it - this person reflects exactly your unresolved tasks, hidden deeply. Sometimes so much that in order to see them you need to show them amplified by 100 times. The great power of responsibility lies in telling yourself honestly.
- Work towards solving YOUR problems and show compassion towards yourself and those close to you. After all, they have their own pain-body and their own unsolved problems.
Many women around the world go through a bunch of trainings to reveal femininity in order to build peace and harmony in their souls. It's important to accept yourself! Including wild, indomitable energy and all the dark sides.
Read also:... No one person can influence your life or create circumstances in your life.
Each of us is whole
We have both masculine and feminine principles. It is important to accept all parts of yourself. The man is not around? Or is there, but he doesn't care about you? And in general, are all the men around - weak? Women, revealing their femininity, do not realize that the men around them demonstrate their own masculine energy, very often suppressed and oppressed.
More often than not, the male energy within the woman needs healing. This energy returns the strength and determination to say “no”, to build boundaries, to leave a man with whom you do not feel happy, the ability to act, etc. The men next to you show the image of your inner man, written on the inside. If the men around you are weak, or they are not at all, then masculine energy must be healed.
Test
Close your eyes and imagine an image of your inner man (perhaps your inner man will be like your father, or the man who is now nearby, or you will see him as a very young boy who is afraid of everything). Take a look at it, examine it carefully and then everything will become clear.
Harmony inside creates harmony outside. Femininity is revealed completely next to masculine integrity and strength. But very often women are looking for a ready, strong man. And they do not admit that they attract weak men to their vibrations. After all, what's inside is outside!
Once, several years ago, I decided (when my vision was already open) to make a diagnosis for all the members of my women's club: to determine the amount of male and female energy inside everyone present. I was sure that if men are near weak and weak-willed, you need to work on increasing femininity, which I have been doing for several years, practically unsuccessfully, or with small changes.
My surprise knew no bounds! For most women, the male inner energy was like a thin trickle, and the female energy was like a deep river. My reflections, working with a lot of women, and my own quick results after that confirmed that I was going in the right direction. In all subsequent sessions I asked which men are next to women. She explained why. And then we worked with healing and accepting the masculine energy within the woman.
Integrity on the inside gives rise to integrity on the outside
Embracing masculine energy helps your feminine energy unfold to its fullest. Shine in all its beauty. Male energy gives such qualities as determination, strength of mind, capable of revealing and directing the spirit of your man to create something beautiful in this world. Female energy is the ability to feel, thought to penetrate into the depths of all phenomena and objects. It is emotionality, spontaneity and harmony at the same time. It is to be in a state of flow and to Create. Together, masculine and feminine energies create yin-yang balance and harmony within you.
Read also:, about why it is necessary to heal male energy, about the transition to a new level of realization, and the balance of yin and yang.
When you fully accept your inner masculine energy, the man takes off the masks, he does not need to wear them anymore, because he played his role for you. He helped you wake up. Or another partner comes into your life that matches your inner state now. And you walk with a man hand in hand through life, doing a common cause. This is what women most often want.
One of the clues before that diagnosis a few years ago was the film Judha and Akbar. He prompted me to think that it is a strong-willed, integral woman who will be able to reveal herself and direct the strength of a man towards creation. And a woman doesn't have to always be a soft kitty for that to happen.
A whole woman will unconsciously subject a man to a test, but, seeing him with her heart, she will idolize, which will make a man a thousand times stronger. She sees weaknesses. The strength of the mind and honesty in relation to herself and others, allows her to look openly and not close her eyes at everything that she sees in her man, and therefore in herself. And to see is to recognize, and to acknowledge and not to condemn is to dissolve.
If a man has enough courage and he does not give up, but perceives it as an opportunity to know himself - he will know his inner woman, and therefore the Divine mother. Through him, a holistic woman will cognize herself and her inner man, which means God the father. Recognize and accept and smooth out your rough edges, restore harmony in yourself.
Just render the document with the title: “ Planetary contract"(Or, if it's easier for you, write it down on a piece of paper).
At the bottom of the contract, render your name on the left and “ All women (or men) of the Earth" - on right.
Visualize the words for your gender in the contract.
Men: No woman can ever be trusted. All women want to control men, use and abuse them. For you men to protect each other and yourself, you must agree never to trust women. You have to suppress women, otherwise they will suppress you. You must constantly support the war of the sexes to prove that you are right and women are not.
Women: No man can ever be trusted. All men seek to control, exploit, and abuse women. For you women to protect each other and yourself, you must agree never to trust men. Men are always suppressing you because they are physically stronger. Therefore, you must constantly support the war of the sexes in order to prove that you are right and men are not.
Imagine holding a large red felt-tip pen and write in large, thick letters across the contract: “ CANCELED».
Break the contract in at least two parts.
Imagine a roaring flame in a fireplace or stove, and mentally throw pieces of torn paper into the fire. Watch until the paper burns down to the last piece.
Say something like this: “ In the name of my I AM Presence, I am willing and able to accept the responsibility to restore trust, understanding, respect, dignity and true love in all my relationships with the other sex. I am also willing and able to exercise discernment in all my relationships with the other sex. I no longer wish and will not play games with my gender that in any way humiliate, insult, accuse or judge members of the other sex, or approach them from the position of "they are all the same." No no and one more time no!»
If you still feel a lot of emotional stress associated with this problem, sit and let the energy move as you do, and breathe deeply until you feel liberated. (A variation on this technique is found in Chapter 6 of The Legacy of the Pleiades.)
Male menopause (andropause) and marriage breakdown.
You've probably heard about crisis of "fifty" men, manifested as a consequence of male menopause or andropause.
According to scientific evidence:
1. At the somatic level, this phenomenon is characterized by a deterioration in the general state of health.
2. On the mental side, it is accompanied by depression, sudden mood swings, internal stress and anxiety.
3. On the psychological level, it is manifested by a feeling of overcoming the peak of one's activity, one's own uselessness, a loss of faith in oneself.
4. At the physiological level - harmonious changes, namely a lowered level of testosterone (male hormone) and an increased level of estrogen (female hormone), which leads to a decrease in sexual desire (libido).
Let's dwell on the last . It is expected that during a crisis, expressed in sexual dysfunction, a man should be more focused on his spouse as the closest and dearest person (I mean happy marriages).
However, in practice, there is absolutely opposite trend: the sexuality of men, on the other hand, rises sharply.
And the wives of the menopause or post-menopause, due to the loss of their visual attractiveness, no longer suit their husbands. Driven by libidinal motivation, men find other women who are usually much younger than they are.
And the fact that a spouse has another woman can be easily identified by a number of signs: by his increased attention to his appearance, unusual expressions and atypical behavior.
Husbands' attitudes towards wives are also changing radically. It can be expressed in excessive tenderness and sensitivity to the spouse, which, however, may indicate that he does not intend to leave his family. Or they are replaced by unreasonable pickiness and rudeness, in indicating shortcomings, which were previously present in the spouse, but right now they began to irritate them especially. This applies not only to the wife, but also to the children.
It's hard to believe, but during menopause, a man is able to abandon his family, including children.
And if the wife, knowing about her husband's hobby, begins to actively resist this, choosing inadequate following the rules of the classic jealousy shape expressions, then men either leave their wives in order to avoid marital pressure, or simply divorce them.
The woman's behavior in this case should not be aggressive. She must understand that this is not an ordinary case of cheating that may have taken place in the past. Here she deals with her husband during the period of andropause of their life, when hormonal imbalance is unstable. Therefore, if she wants to save the marriage, she must remain very calm and resilient. I recommend taking psychological classes on the Internet in advance.
Thus, marriages with 20-30 years of experience or more begin to fall apart during andropause due to male infidelity.
And the well-known expressions "Gray in the head, devil in the rib" and "Second youth" are here directly embodied.
But what about the family, wife, his grown-up children and, perhaps, the grandchildren who have appeared? What should they do in this situation?
They are trying to convince him not to leave his family and save the marriage. However, this may not work. The man does not hear any arguments, and does not accept any requests or complaints. Here we are dealing with another person with his changed psychology, because the physiology has changed due to menopause.
And for women in this very difficult period, the main and main thing is not to respond with suicide to adultery, do not leave life !!!
Probably, on the psychological level, betrayal is perceived as the collapse of one's own "ego", leading to an imbalance of all personal characteristics. The resulting jealousy as a personal response is destructive both for the person himself and for those around him. For example, the need to return a loved one can give rise to a desire to punish a rival, which can lead to a criminal outcome.
On the other hand, the inner state of despair, melancholy and grief cannot last long. There are thoughts about the meaninglessness of existence, a feeling of the uselessness of oneself in this world. The feeling of betrayal and loss is felt especially acutely, sometimes it is simply unbearable, and the situation can end tragically. I knew such women. One hanged herself, the other poisoned herself. Neither parents, nor children, nor grandchildren - it would seem, were the closest people to hold them back.
Dear women, suicide is not a way out of this situation. The main thing is with protect yourself, your health for yourself and your loved ones: children, grandchildren, parents. And myself! It is difficult, but possible !!!
Remember that your love life is not over yet. And while you are alive, everything can still change for you personally in the most unexpected way. The husband can come back and ask for a petition. And if you decide to keep the family, then you can turn to the available effective methods and recommendations to achieve how to do this at the stage of male menopause. If not, then female happiness will definitely come to you. After a while, you will see a woman in yourself who can believe in love, become loved, happy and desired.
In the meantime, take into account that the crisis of "fifty" men exists, and manifests itself as a consequence of male menopause or menopause (andropause). The consequences of this period may not affect your family relationships, if women know about this in advance and prepare for it in time.
I did not find in the studied sources a direct relationship between andropause and family conflicts. But, after analyzing this problem, I came to conclusion that in addition to the subjective claims of the spouse to his wife, for example, the activation of her negative character traits, misunderstanding, incontinence, marriages collapse objective reason, lying in the physiological changes of the male body, namely, in changes in hormonal structures.
Perhaps this physiological imbalance can be restored by harmonious regulation . To do this, you need to find out exactly what specific hormones cause these deviations and what therapeutic means to influence them..
However, another problem may arise here, the spouse does not want to take drugs that reduce his sexual libido. eIn this case, you can seek help from a family psychologist.
Family conflicts due to the betrayal of a spouse are still a very widespread and urgent problem during andropause.
All spouses during this period violate marital obligations with the exception of 4 groups of men:
1.With serious health problems, when physical aches and pains make it difficult to concentrate on renewed sexual needs.
2. With a strong addiction to alcohol, drugs, games, or other addiction.
3. With financial dependence on the spouse or her relatives.
4. With strong moral and ethical principles in relation to family and marriage.
Unfortunately, the number of divorces around the world is increasing during the age crisis of married men. Their growth predetermined special attention to this issue on the part of society. And the attitude to this phenomenon is unambiguous - to preserve the marriage by any means.
Huge information is presented on the Internet. Books and special weekly magazines are published on how to do this in practice.
Among those proposed and generalized by me are the following suggestions:
1) Family psychologist consultations provide invaluable information on how to achieve family harmony and stability in marriage.
2) Visit to a sexologist. Learn sex, because there is no marriage without sex. Sex should not become a routine and a habit. Elements of novelty and sex appeal are essential attributes of happy marriages.
3) Contacting a urologist or andrologist during this period it is also necessary to assist in the normalization of harmonious balance.
4) Legal aid in the preparation of marriage contracts.
If for a number of reasons it is not possible to resort to real help from specialists, then their advice and all the necessary information can be obtained via the Internet.
In view of the increasing globalization of this problem, I would add one more point:
5) State legal support. It would be nice to achieve the introduction of an amendment to the current law of family and marriage, the essence of which is as follows: when starting a new illegal family, a man must financially take care of the previous one. Violation of this legislation should lead to appropriate legal sanctions.
This law is already functioning in Muslim countries, and today, in conditions of social immorality, it would be necessary to adapt this law and others.
If you have any questions on this topic and desire to discuss it, please let us know.
Lina Sachek.
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4. www. Marriage Miracle.com
5. www.SaveThe Marriage.com
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7. www. keepyourmarriage.com