The best upbringing is a personal example of an adult. For a boy, ideally, he should be a father and close circle - grandfather, brother, teacher, coach ...
However, the reality is that a boy in preschool age, when the foundations of his sex-role behavior are laid, is not surrounded by men at all. In the field of education, women work almost everywhere, the number of single-parent families has increased, and in complete families, the male father is often present only formally.
Some dads withdraw themselves from the process of raising a boy, considering it a woman's business, show lack of initiative, not knowing what to do with the baby. Others are infantile themselves, so they can do little to help in the development of masculine qualities. And it so happens that dad would be happy to raise the boy, spend time with his son, teach him something, but the workload does not allow, because you need to think about the future of the family.
However, mothers should not be discouraged, even if the responsibility for raising their sons lies with them. You just need to properly organize the process of raising a boy from the very beginning, following 8 "golden" rules:
1. Raising a boy: do not limit freedom!
In order for a mother to bring up male qualities in her son, it is sometimes necessary to raise him not in the way that is more convenient for her, easier and calmer. First of all, you need to make sure that the upbringing of the boy forms his character. And for this, mother very often has to revise her views on life, attitudes, fight her fears, “break” stereotypes developed over the years.
What picture can be observed more and more often in modern families? In boys, neatness, caution, and diligence are cultivated. And then the mother reaps the fruits of her own and grandmother's "muslin upbringing": growing up, the son cannot resist the offender, overcome difficulties, does not want to strive for something. And the parents do not understand where this weak will in their child came from.
However, it is precisely these qualities that are put into the boy from early childhood with the words “Don't run - you will fall”, “Don't go, it's dangerous there”, “Don't do it - you will hurt yourself”, “Don't touch, I myself” and others “Don't…”. Will initiative and responsibility be formed with such a boy's upbringing?
Of course, mother and grandmother can be partly understandable, especially when the child is the only and long-awaited one. They are afraid that something might happen to the baby. However, these fears also hide selfish considerations. An agreeable child is much more comfortable, you do not need to adapt to him. It is much easier to feed a two-year-old child herself than to watch him spread porridge on a plate. It's quicker to dress a four-year-old herself than to wait while he fumbles with buttons and laces. It is calmer when the son walks next to him and holds his hand, rather than running around the site, trying to get lost out of sight. When we indulge our urges, we do not think about the consequences.
Such a boy's upbringing distorts the very masculine nature, responding to the mental and physical health of boys. They have fears, sometimes turning into somatic problems (stuttering, nervous tics, allergies, breathing problems, frequent illnesses), low self-esteem is formed, and problems develop in communicating with other children. Quite often the opposite situation also arises: the boy can begin to “defend” himself against the pressure of parental care by aggressive behavior, thus expressing his childish rebelliousness.
Of course, it is not easy to get rid of habits, but you need to understand that a child without the help of his parents will not be as he would like. For this he needs the help of adults and certain conditions. Do not restrict the baby's freedom of movement during a walk, do not take away from small "dangers" (conflict in a sandbox with a peer, climbing over a low fence, etc.), but help to overcome difficulties, encourage.
2. Raising a boy. The child must have an example to follow
Regardless of whether the boy is raised by a single mother or he grows up in a complete family, you need to try to make sure that the image of a man, moreover, rather attractive for a boy's perception, is present in the life of the family.
Until the baby grows up, he is quite satisfied that his mother spends most of the time with him, but after 3 years, when the child is separated from the mother both physically and personally, the boy begins to show more and more interest in men: dad, uncle , grandfather. And by the age of 6, it becomes imperative for him to spend time with adult men, imitating them and imitating their behavior. And here the mother should make sure that her son has someone to communicate with.
Joint leisure time with his father helps the boy to define himself in life, to understand who he is. After all, it is only through communication with the father and other men that the child learns the norms of male behavior, forms his own opinion. And the sooner the dad begins to raise his son, the sooner a male stereotype of behavior will form in him.
But what if dad is not around? In this case, the mother needs to find a person among the relatives or friends who could appear in the boy's life at least from time to time. For example, you can take your toddler to grandpa's for the weekend and leave them to solder, plan, and tinker together. And when the baby grows up, you should find him a sports section or circle, led by a man who really loves his job.
In addition, the image of a real man for your boy can be found not only among real people. For this purpose, imaginary characters are also fine. It is enough to find a book hero, whom the son would like to be like, to hang on the wall a photograph of a brave grandfather, to talk about his ancestors and their courageous deeds. In other words, it is necessary to create a microclimate for the son that is conducive to his male development.
3. Raising a real man is possible only in a stable atmosphere.
First of all, a boy (as well as a girl) needs love and harmony in the family. A father should not be afraid to show affection for his son. He will not spoil the child with such things, but will form his basic trust in the world and confidence in his loved ones. To love means to be not indifferent to the problems and feelings of the child, to see him as a person. A boy, brought up sensitively and consistently, grows up open, calm, confident in his abilities, capable of sympathy, the manifestation of emotions.
4. Teach the boy to express his feelings freely.
It is important that there is no prohibition on expressing feelings in the family. Crying is a natural manifestation of stress. So do not follow the lead of stereotypes and scold the boy for tears. You just need to treat them as a signal that the child is bad, and not suppress his emotions, but teach them to express them, if possible, in a different way.
5. Admit your mistakes openly.
How to raise a real man? Of course, by personal example, show that you must always be responsible for your words. Dads and mothers should be critical of themselves. If necessary, admit that they are wrong and ask for forgiveness from their son, this will only strengthen their authority, showing justice.
6. Build your child's empathy skills
Cultivate moral qualities in the boy. As a preschooler, he can understand and do a lot, from helping his mother around the house and ending with respectful attitude towards the elderly in transport. This behavior should be "presented" as the norm. To clean up the dishes, make the bed, make way for grandmother on the bus - this is normal for a future man.
7. When raising a boy, encourage him to be independent.
Give a lot of attention in the development of the boy to his independence. Let him sometimes feel his importance and freedom. In the future, this will help him to become happy and successful, to maximize his potential. Boys tend to strive for self-affirmation and leadership. This is very important for their further development. Therefore, it is necessary to encourage the son's desire to make his own choice, to think independently, to remind that he is responsible for his actions.
8. Take your child to sports clubs
Children need physical activity for full physical development. While the child is small, you need to walk more with him, allow him to run, jump, fall, climb, explore the world under the careful guidance of parents. Later, time should be allocated in the son's weekly schedule for the sports section, where he could improve his physical capabilities and feel strong, agile, confident.
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Mothers should take note of one "secret" in the contact between father and child. Fathers are often afraid to stay with the baby for a long time because they feel insecure. Therefore, make the dad's leisure time with the child as specific as possible.
For example, say, “Tomorrow I’ll go away on business for a couple of hours. Let's figure out what you could do with your baby. " Or: "On Saturday you will finally be able to build a hut that our boy has long dreamed of." So you will give the man a chance to mentally prepare for communication with the little one.
P.S. When interacting with a child, moms and dads should not be afraid to be funny, awkward, or unsuccessful. Children, as you know, forgive their parents for everything except falsehood and indifference.
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Dmitry Dyuzhev and Vanya (5 years old)
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“The best method of raising a boy is love, I squeeze my son endlessly and kiss him! My wife and I are fostering self-sufficiency in Van, we want him not only to be calm and self-confident, but also to love people himself. And, of course, you shouldn't be overly patronizing. Let him spoil the carpets, if necessary, let him crawl into the ink, let the sand try - there is no need to prohibit. "
Alisa Grebenshchikova and Alyosha (5 years old)
“Alyosha grows up in a large family, where everyone has their own role. He sees how women behave, what they do. Our grandmother is responsible for comfort. He has men's games with his grandfathers. Once we went with my son to the store, and I invited him to choose any toy. Alyosha made a choice in favor of a chainsaw. He was 4 years old. “I will cut wood,” said the son. The fact is that he saw how grandfather did it in the country, who also removes leaves and cleans snow. Alyosha understands that all this is part of men's responsibilities. "
The fate of most Russian women has always been difficult. Millions of Russian women have to raise their children alone. How to raise a worthy man from a son who is deprived of male attention? A son without a father is not a tragedy, but a woman must understand that a child lacks male attention. Many moms underestimate this and make serious mistakes in raising boys. Conflicting, infantile, insecure men are formed from such children.
Opposites should balance each other and create harmony. This is exactly what happens in the relationship between mother and son. Usually such women are domineering and strong, dictate their terms. However, even in this situation, it is useless to wait for concessions or initiative from the son. Mom is used to solving everything herself, including household issues, so the boys think that this is how it should be. And even if you know that you can easily get used to both the role of the mother and the role of the father, refuse it. Play along with your son in order to seem weak and defenseless to him, and so that the child learns to be independent. In this case, masculine qualities will begin to develop in the child.
Do not forget to praise your son for his successes and try not to punish for mistakes. However, this does not mean at all that you should indulge the child - only constructive criticism should come from you. Active and responsible men are formed alongside understanding, gentle and needy women. You can’t be a boy’s friend: don’t trust him with absolutely all secrets, don’t talk about your personal life and your sympathies for men. Keep your distance and control your emotions, and as you get older, do so that the distance gets further. Sons who are overly attached to their mothers often have difficulties in their personal lives.
Boys begin to feel that they are male at about four years old. They need communication with their fathers, because they so want to be like adult men. If the father did not want to see his son for a long time, and then suddenly began to show concern, do not interfere with this.
You should forget about misunderstandings and resentments, especially if a man is socially well-off and does not have bad habits. A friendly relationship will benefit not only your son, but you as well. If the father is not around, or he has bad habits, and you think that he will set a bad example for your child, your male relatives should provide assistance in raising. They can be uncles, brothers or grandfathers.
For a boy, joint activities or walks with a man are very important, since this way he will better feel his belonging to the male sex, adopt the style of behavior and skills of men.
A man is forged by his entourage
It is bad if among your relatives there are not those who can take care of their son. In this case, psychologists advise to enroll the child in the sports section. It should be a sport that develops endurance, strength, discipline and responsibility.
Playing sports is very important during adolescence, when testosterone levels are very high in boys. This can manifest itself in the form of aggression - the child becomes uncontrollable, rude, provokes quarrels and fights. Subconsciously, the boy is looking for an authoritative adult who can point out the wrong behavior.
Mom cannot cope with this task, but the coach can do it. A male trainer will always be able to speak like a man, choose the right physical activity, and listen to the boy's problems.
Naturally, raising a real man is not easy even in a complete and prosperous family, and everyone knows this. For a single woman without support, this is an almost impossible task. However, a woman raising a son without a husband should understand that she is raising a child not for her own sake, but for his own sake.
Play along with your son, create conditions for him in which he will have every chance to develop the best male qualities. And do not forget to sincerely praise the boy for his successes, but you should not reproach unnecessarily for mistakes. This does not mean that you should indulge in everything - constructive criticism is never superfluous. A responsible and active man is more likely to form next to a tender, understanding mother who needs care and help. However, do not try to become a friend for your son: you should not trust him with all your secrets, talk about affections. Control your emotions, keep your distance, and let it get bigger as the boy grows up. It is not without reason that it was noticed that sons who are too attached to their mothers have difficulties in their personal lives.
How to raise a son as a real man without a father
To begin with, every mother, single-handedly raising her son and sincerely wishing to give him the right upbringing, must forget the opinion of individual people that an incomplete family is equal to the upbringing of an inferior man. Don't think of your family as inferior - don't program yourself problems.
Inadequacy is determined not by the absence of a father, but by the lack of love and proper upbringing. Of course, difficulties await you, but you will definitely cope with them.
Just avoid mistakes and remember the main thing: Do not try to become a dad, raising a child like a soldier - tough and uncompromising. If you do not want him to grow up withdrawn and angry, do not forget - he needs affection and tenderness.
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A model of behavior for a real man must be mandatory. This does not mean that you need to change men near you, looking for the most courageous dad substitute.
How to raise a son alone, without a child's father
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About knights and musketeers, about brave heroes saving the world, protecting women and their families. Of course, the image of "Gena Bukin", the American gigolo and other characters will be a terrible example.
Control what your son watches and reads, slip him the right books and films, show on the street with examples how men protect the streets from bandits, how they give way to grannies, how they support the ladies, let them go ahead and give them a hand. Do not mess with your son, do not distort your language. Communicate with your child like an adult.
There is no need to stifle authority with authority, but over-concern will be harmful. Raise your son independent of you. Do not worry that this way he will move away from you - he will love you even more. But by locking a child under your wing, you run the risk of raising an addicted, cowardly egoist. Do not do all his work for the child, teach him independence.
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An example for a son Child psychologists believe that at about the age of four, a boy begins to realize that he is a male. Communication with the father is necessary for the son as air. It is to him, and not to his mother, that the boy unconsciously strives to be like.
It happens that a father, who has not reminded of himself for a long time, begins to take care of the child. In this case, you should not interfere with his communication with his son.
Try to forget about your ambitions and resentments. And if the boy's father is a person without bad inclinations, socially prosperous, then friendly relations will benefit everyone. But what if your father is simply not around? Relatives - grandfathers, uncles, brothers - can help in the upbringing of a growing man.
For the boy, it is very important to have joint activities with older men, whether it be repairing a car or playing football.
Only mom: is it possible to raise a man from a boy alone
A boy of any age, both a preschooler and a teenager, needs male attention. Many mothers, underestimating this, often make mistakes.
The result, unfortunately, is disastrous. From the son, an infantile, conflictual, insecure man is formed. It is rightly believed that opposites balance each other and create harmony.
This also happens in the relationship between mother and son. A strong, authoritarian woman who always does everything on her own and dictates how to act is unlikely to be able to get from the boy what she is fighting for. It is useless to wait for him to show initiative, if mom decides everything herself - both everyday problems and his own.
And he will take a drill in his hands, and he will sort it out in quarrels with classmates ... Even if you feel that you can be a mom and dad at the same time, give up this role.
Let him brush his teeth, make the bed, put away the toys after him, and even wash his own cup.  Of course, there is no need to hang women's responsibilities on the child. Forcing your son to hammer nails at 4 is also not worth it.
If something doesn't work out for the child, calmly offer to try again. Trust in a child, faith in his capabilities is your best support for him.
Do not dismiss if the baby wants to pity you, hug, kiss. This is how the child takes care of you - let him feel strong.
And if he wants to help you carry your bag - let him carry it. But go too far in your "weakness". The child should not be your constant comforter, advisor, etc.
Do not forget to praise your son for his courage, independence and courage. Praise is an incentive for achievement. Of course, not in the spirit of "What a smart girl, my golden baby ...", but "Well done, son" - that is, briefly and to the point.
How to raise a boy without a father: 13 important rules
Otherwise, the boy may grow up to be dependent, dependent, indecisive. Of course, if a woman is left alone with a baby in her arms, regular help in raising a child would be ideal.
It is desirable that the former spouse should contribute to the upbringing. Many argue that only a father is able to love his son strongly and unconditionally.
Quite a controversial statement. Modern men take women with children as spouses. They love her offspring so much that many blood fathers never dreamed of. But there are men from communication with whom the baby can draw exclusively negative traits. In this case, it is better to raise the baby alone. Divorce does not cancel obligations to the blood in the material and psychological terms.
- The husband strives to see the little one - let him take part in the upbringing.
Single mom. to raise a man from a boy
Tell the boy the main aspects of safe sex life, but do not prohibit him from 15-16 years old. In adolescence, the child will need money to date girls, so motivate your son to do a part-time job - the boy himself must learn how to make money.
Pocket spending shouldn't be limited, but make sure the boy doesn't use your money to buy drinks or cigarettes. Any child exactly copies the behavior of his parents.
The correct upbringing of a son should be based, first of all, on the behavior of the mother. Roughly speaking, a mother should become a father for a child. Do not allow yourself to cry in front of the child, behave with dignity around your son, try to imagine yourself as a man and project this onto your child.
How can you avoid making mistakes? Not to spoil the "material" that nature has graciously given in order to release a real man into life? First of all, from an early age, do not lisp with a boy. Talk to him on an equal footing, he is, of course, a "bunny" and a "cat", but first of all, he is a future male.
Do not run to him like a crazy lioness, pushing everyone in its path if your baby falls. He will get up on his own, perhaps cry, but the second, third time, when he falls, he will know that "I fell myself - I will rise myself!" It is necessary to teach the boy as early as possible to do the basic things on his own (get dressed, tie the laces, remove the toys), and then more complex things (wash the dishes, warm up your lunch, if your mother is not at home, wipe your shoes).
It is extremely important that the child during this period has an authoritative "limiter" and an assistant - a man who will help, prompt, teach self-control. Do not limit the child's social circle, do not lock him in the apartment. Let him fill bumps and make mistakes, let him put himself in a team and on a playground, let him make friends, take care of girls, protect the weak, etc. Do not try to impose your understanding of the world on your son. First, he still sees the world differently from you. Secondly, his vision is masculine.  Learn with your child to understand sports, construction, cars and pistols, and other purely male spheres of life. Family means love and respect. This means that you are always expected and always supported. It doesn't matter if it is complete or not. Raising masculinity in a son is not an easy task, but a loving mother can handle it.
How a single mother can raise a real man from a son
Raising children without a father is an incredibly difficult and responsible period in a woman's life. Often the son of a single mother grows up to be feminine and infantile, which causes a lot of social troubles in adolescence and later life.
A boy raised by his mother has big problems in communicating with peers and girls. If you are destined to raise a boy alone, you must remember several important rules that will help raise a son without a father as a real man. How to raise a real man alone First of all, it is necessary to protect the boy as much as possible from the daily female routine. Manicure, makeup, hair dyeing and other purely girlish things should be isolated from the son. Do not let your child try on your shoes, wardrobe, paint lips and eyelashes - these are the gross mistakes in raising a son without a father. Enroll the boy in the sports section from an early age.
How a single mother can raise a real man without a father from a son
If not, then godfathers, friends, acquaintances, brothers, grandfathers, and other male relatives will come down. At school, these can be teachers, trainers, and others. It is very important that the child spends as much free time as possible with them.
Go with him to visit that he saw how the head of the family should behave. Give your son to the men's sections: boxing, karate, football, basketball. He will regularly communicate only with boys and male coaches, from whom he will take an example.
Watch movies, cartoons with the boy, read books, notes, look at men's magazines that show a good example of worthy men and various men's hobbies. Don't spoil him. Treat him fairly, communicate like an adult. Thus, you will not raise a whiner, but a strong and confident man.
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An incomplete family can be quite comfortable for a child, comprehensively developing and full-fledged - the main thing is to intelligently organize educational moments. As a rule, the “mother and daughter” family experiences fewer problems, because the mother and daughter can always find common topics of conversation, common activities and interests.
But how a single mom raise her son to be a real man
, not having that very example in front of your eyes, which your son would look up to?
Remember that you can never replace your dad. So be yourself! And what to do with male upbringing - read below.
How a single mother can raise a son without a father to be a real man - advice from psychologists
To begin with, every mother, single-handedly raising her son and sincerely wishing to give him the right upbringing, must forget the opinion of individual people that an incomplete family is equal to the upbringing of an inferior man. Don't think your family is inferior. - do not program yourself problems. Inadequacy is determined not by the absence of a father, but by the lack of love and proper upbringing.
Of course, difficulties await you, but you will definitely cope with them. Just avoid mistakes and remember the main thing. :
- Don't try to be a dad by raising a child like a soldier - hard and uncompromising. If you do not want him to grow up withdrawn and angry, do not forget - he needs affection and tenderness.
- A model of behavior for a real man must be mandatory.
This does not mean that you need to change men near you, looking for the most courageous dad substitute. We are talking about those men who are in the life of every woman - her dad, brother, uncle, teachers, coaches, etc.
Have the toddler spend more time with them (after all, someone has to demonstrate to the boy how to pee while standing). The first 5 years are the most important for a baby. It is during this period that a mother needs to give her son the opportunity - to take an example from a man. It's good if she meets a person who will replace the baby's father, but if this does not happen, do not close with the child in your world - take him to male relatives, go to visit friends, where a man can (albeit for a short time) teach the little one a couple of lessons ; send your son to sports. Not to a music or art school, but to a section where a male coach can influence the formation of a courageous personality. - Movies, books, cartoons, stories from mom before bedtime can also be an example to follow. About knights and musketeers, about brave heroes saving the world, protecting women and their families. Of course, the image of "Gena Bukin", the American gigolo and other characters will be a terrible example. Control what your son watches and reads, slip him the right books and films, show on the street with examples how men protect the streets from bandits, how they give way to grannies, how they support the ladies, let them go ahead and give them a hand.
- Do not mess with your son, do not distort your language. Communicate with your child like an adult. There is no need to stifle authority with authority, but over-concern will be harmful. Raise your son independent of you. Do not worry that this way he will move away from you - he will love you even more. But by locking a child under your wing, you run the risk of raising an addicted, cowardly egoist.
- Do not do all his work for the child, teach him independence.
Let him brush his teeth, make the bed, put away the toys after him, and even wash his own cup.
Of course, there is no need to hang women's responsibilities on the child. Forcing your son to hammer nails at 4 is also not worth it. If something doesn't work out for the child, calmly offer to try again. Trust in a child, faith in his capabilities is your best support for him. - Do not dismiss if the baby wants to pity you, hug, kiss. This is how the child takes care of you - let him feel strong. And if he wants to help you carry your bag - let him carry it. But go too far in your "weakness". The child should not be your constant comforter, advisor, etc.
- Do not forget to praise your son for his courage, independence and courage. Praise is an incentive for achievement. Of course, not in the spirit of "What a smart girl, my golden baby ...", but "Well done, son" - that is, briefly and to the point.
- Give your child freedom. Let him learn to solve conflict situations himself, to endure if he accidentally fell and broke his knee, to understand good and bad people by trial and error.
- If your own father wants to communicate with his son, do not resist.
Let the child learn to grow up under the supervision of a man. If the father is not an alcoholic and a completely adequate man, then your grievances against your husband do not matter - do not deprive your son of a man's upbringing.
After all, you do not want your son, having matured a little, went to look for "masculinity" in street companies? - Choose clubs, sections and courses that are dominated by men. Sports, computer, etc.
- In the adolescence of your son, another "crisis" awaits you. The child already knows everything about the relationship of the sexes, but the release of testosterone drives him crazy. And he won't be able to talk to you about it. It is extremely important that the child during this period has an authoritative "limiter" and an assistant - a man who will help, prompt, teach self-control.
- Do not limit the child's social circle, do not lock him in the apartment. Let him fill bumps and make mistakes, let him put himself in the team and on the playground, let him make friends, look after girls, protect the weak, etc.
- Do not try to impose your understanding of the world on your son.
First, he still sees the world differently from you. Secondly, his vision is masculine.
- Learn to understand sports with your child , in construction, in cars and pistols, and in other purely male spheres of life.
Family means love and respect. This means that you are always expected and always supported. It doesn't matter if it is complete or not.
Raise masculinity in a son - not an easy task, but a loving mother can handle it .
Believe in yourself and your child!
A boy of any age, both a preschooler and a teenager, needs male attention. Many mothers, underestimating this, often make mistakes. The result, unfortunately, is disastrous. From the son, an infantile, conflictual, insecure man is formed.
It is rightly believed that opposites balance each other and create harmony. This also happens in the relationship between mother and son. A strong, authoritarian woman who always does everything on her own and dictates how to act is unlikely to be able to get from the boy what she is fighting for. It is useless to wait for him to show initiative, if mom decides everything herself - both everyday problems and his own. And he will take a drill in his hands, and he will sort it out in quarrels with classmates ...
Even if you feel like you can be a mom and dad at the same time, give up this role. Play along with your son, create conditions for him in which he will have every chance to develop the best male qualities. And do not forget to sincerely praise the boy for his successes, but you should not reproach unnecessarily for mistakes. This does not mean that you should indulge in everything - constructive criticism is never superfluous.
A responsible and active man is more likely to form next to a tender, understanding mother who needs care and help. However, do not try to become a friend for your son: you should not trust him with all your secrets, talk about affections. Control your emotions, keep your distance, and let it get bigger as the boy grows up. It is not without reason that it was noticed that sons who are too attached to their mothers have difficulties in their personal lives.
An example for a son
Child psychologists believe that at about the age of four, a boy begins to realize that he is a male. Communication with the father is necessary for the son as air. It is to him, and not to his mother, that the boy unconsciously strives to be like. It happens that a father, who has not reminded of himself for a long time, begins to take care of the child. In this case, you should not interfere with his communication with his son. Try to forget about your ambitions and resentments. And if the boy's father is a person without bad inclinations, socially prosperous, then friendly relations will benefit everyone.
But what if your father is simply not around? Relatives - grandfathers, uncles, brothers - can help in the upbringing of a growing man. For the boy, it is very important to have joint activities with older men, whether it be repairing a car or playing football. So he better feels his involvement with the stronger sex, adopts men's skills, style of behavior, way of thinking.
How to develop character
You may not be able to see exemplary male relatives in your field of vision. There is an exit. Pay attention - yours and your child - to the sports sections that he could attend. Let it be doing different sports that develop strength, endurance, good reaction - wrestling, football, hockey.
Passion for sports is especially important in adolescence, when testosterone levels in a young body are off the charts. This manifests itself in the form of increased aggression: the boy becomes uncontrollable, rude, provokes fights, quarrels. He does not understand what is happening to him and suffers from it. Subconsciously, a teenager is looking for an authoritative adult who would point him to the boundaries of what is permitted. Best of all, not a mother will cope with this task, but an experienced coach of the sports section. He will be able to talk in a friendly way with the child about his problems and choose physical activity for him, which will help to bring his psychological state back to normal.
Undoubtedly, raising a real man from a boy is not easy, and for a single woman it is an even more difficult task. But it is quite doable, the main thing is to remember that we are raising children not for our own sake, but for their own sake.